Interview with
Kia Miller

Kia Miller and Valentina Fratu  "The Portal of Love: Accessing the Source Within"

I named this interview “The Portal of Love” because, at its core, that’s exactly what it is. Through Kia Miller profound wisdom and grounded insights, she shows that love isn’t just a destination — it’s the essence of every step we take. It’s the force that connects us, transforms us, and guides us home to ourselves.
Our conversation revealed that the journey to love is multidimensional, woven with portals that expand our awareness. These 🌠12 portals🌠, inspired by Kia’s teachings, are here to guide you closer to the Source within — where love has always been, waiting for you. Let them carry you back to the infinite essence of who you are.

Portal 1: It's right here, not there – Expansion Begins Within

Expanding isn’t about acquiring something new but about uncovering the vastness that’s always been within. When we release the hard covers we’ve built around ourselves, we start to see how everything is connected—a reality far richer and more real than we ever thought. Our narrow view of life suddenly widens, and we begin to see things clearly for what they really are. It’s not “out there.” It’s right here, waiting to be uncovered.

Portal 2: Choice — Stepping Into True Freedom and Owning Your Power

At the heart of yoga teaching is a simple yet profound truth: we are 100% responsible for how we experience life. No external change — whether it’s a new job, more money, a different relationship, or even fame or new relationships — can truly transform our inner world for the long term. Without working on the layers of mental and emotional baggage we carry, we’ll keep repeating the same patterns, seeing life through the same lens.

As when we start letting go of those blocks, everything changes. We move from reacting on autopilot to making intentional choices. Suddenly, every moment becomes a chance to break free from old habits and show up in the present with curiosity, freedom, and a sense of real power. It’s about seeing life through a whole new lens—one that’s actually yours.

Portal 3: Compassion – Moving Beyond Ego and Judgment

This portal dives into something we all deal with: the ego’s tendency to judge, compare, and try to feel superior. Real growth isn’t about being “better” than anyone else — it’s about getting back to who we truly are, without all the filters and stories the ego creates.

When we take a step back and really look, we notice how often we slip into judgment — whether it’s about other people or ourselves. These habits, driven by the ego, keep us feeling separate and stuck in cycles of comparison. But instead of staying in that loop, we can shift our focus inward and reconnect with the part of us that’s free from all the noise.

When we tap into that deeper, truer part of ourselves, compassion starts to flow naturally— for ourselves and for others too. Letting go of judgment and the need to prove ourselves better than others, feels like stepping into fresh air. Moments that used to trigger criticism can turn into chances to show kindness, empathy, and presence. And instead of seeing others as competitors or problems, we begin to see them as fellow travelers, all working through our own messy, beautiful journeys.

Portal 4 : Inner Light – Elevating Your Core Essence  

This portal offers a fresh perspective on growth. Rather than focusing on fixing what feels broken or confronting every trauma head-on, it invites us to strengthen our essence—our inner light. It’s less about what’s wrong and more about elevating ourselves and raising our energy.

By focusing on building this core part of ourselves, the old patterns, wounds, and heavy energy lose their grip. They no longer stick in the same way because we’re rooted in something stronger, timeless, and pure within.

As we cultivate our inner light and teach our minds to stay focused on what matters, we create space for quantum leaps in growth. We access expanded states of consciousness where transformation happens effortlessly. We let go of the old version of ourselves and step into a brighter, authentic self.

Portal 5: Embodiment – Bridging Between Personal Self and Higher Self

In both Psychosynthesis and Yoga, the relationship between the Personal Self and the Higher Self is central. Assagioli, the founder of Psychosynthesis, calls this connection the "third breathing"—a dynamic co-creative flow where the Higher Self inspires and guides, while simultaneously learning through our lived experiences. In my approach to Psychosynthesis, this exchange  is key to integrating inner wisdom into daily life.

Similarly, Kia’s teachings show how yoga  provides a way to nurture this connection. Yoga goes far beyond what happens on the mat. On the mat, we connect to stillness, clarity, and the Higher Selfit — it serves as a powerful reference point for who we truly are. But the real practice begins when we step into the world, carrying this awareness into the complexities of daily life. 

It’s not about retreating from the world but embodying this awareness in challenges we face. Whether it’s a child seeking attention, full inbox of unanswered emails or an unexpected conflict, we have the opportunity to respond with intention, drawing from the clarity cultivated in practice. These are the moments where your connection to your Higher Self is both tested and strengthened. This is how we grow—not by avoiding challenges, but by weaving the presence and wisdom of our Higher Self into every moment of our lives

Portal 6 : Practice – Small Shifts, Profound Impact

Transformation doesn't demand monumental leaps; it thrives on small, intentional steps. A few minutes of movement, breath, or stillness each day create ripples of change. As these practices accumulate, they reset our energy, lifting us out of stagnation and opening doorways to possibilities we once overlooked. 

Portal 7: Humor and Bliss – The Joyful Path of Growth

While personal transformation often feels serious and heavy, approaching it with joy and light-heartedness can open up a whole new dimension of ease and alignment.

When we laugh at the quirks of our ego or the unexpected absurdities of life, we release tension and make space for creativity and insight

Bliss, however, takes this even deeper. Bliss isn’t just fleeting happiness; it’s the deep, radiant joy that comes when we align with our soul’s purpose. When we tune into what brings us joy and fulfillment, we tap into a guiding force that shapes our lives with meaning and auspiciousness.

By following our bliss and allowing joy to guide us, we naturally align with the flow of life. We remember that the path of growth doesn’t have to feel like work — it can be joyful.

Portal 8 : Fluidity – Trusting the unique rhythm of evolution 

Personal growth doesn't go in a straight line. It’s a back-and-forth process—rising, falling, and rising again—each time finding a little more stability in who we’re becoming.

It’s not about being perfect. It’s about catching ourselves when we fall out of grace, asking, "How can I do this differently next time?" and moving forward.

In the beginning, the path can feel challenging. Old wounds and hidden parts of ourselves come up, and progress might look like two steps forward, one step back. But over time, something changes. As we build clarity and strength, the soul’s drive for growth takes over, and the process feels  smoother, like a river once blocked by rocks now moving with ease.

This doesn't mean growth stops. Instead, it signals a shift to a more fluid, aligned journey. The challenges are still there, but they no longer overwhelm us. Each step we take deepens our trust in the unique rhythm of our journey, guiding us toward a more profound flow of being

Portal 9: From Glimpses to Mastery – The Path to Lasting Expansion

This portal draws a clear distinction between glimpses of expanded consciousness and the enduring journey of mastery. Substances that are so discussed now, can provide glimpses into heightened states, offering a taste of what’s possible. However, these experiences are temporary and external, requiring reliance on something outside ourselves to access them.

Real mastery follows a different path. It comes from within, through natural practices like meditation, breathwork, and Kundalini Yoga. These methods empower us to cultivate and sustain expanded states over time, integrating them into who we are without external aids.

Substances may open a door, but the true work—and the true transformation—is ours. Mastery lies in turning those moments of insight into a stable and enduring way of being.

Portal 10: Quantum interconnectedness – Aligning with Infinite Possibilities

Both modern science and ancient mystical traditions share a profound insight: we are not separate from the energy and flow of life, but deeply interconnected with it. Universe operates as a dynamic web of energy, and our thoughts, emotions, and actions influence this field in ways we’re only beginning to understand.

When we turn inward and allow changes in consciousness to unfold, the outer world begins to reflect those shifts. It’s not about controlling the external, but about creating harmony within ourselves. When we align with our true essence and shift our energy and mindset, we tap into a field of infinite possibilities, luminous energy of creation.

Portal 11: From Me to We — From Personal to Transpersonal Evolution 

At first, life often feels like it’s about “me”—meeting our own needs, protecting what’s ours, and figuring out where we fit in. It’s natural to start here. But as we grow, something shifts. We start to see the bigger picture: we’re not separate.

This realization changes everything. Suddenly, it’s less about “What can I get?” and more about “How can we grow together?” or “What can I contribute?” It’s about stepping into our relationships—whether with loved ones, our communities, or even the planet—with greater awareness.

Moving from “me” to “we” is just the next chapter. The inner growth we’ve worked on becomes the foundation for something bigger — building a world that’s kinder, more harmonious, and a shared humanity that uplifts us all

Infinite Portal: Love

At the heart of every journey lies love—the infinite source that connects and transforms. As Kia Miller says, “Those who have profound mystical experiences — they speak to love.” It is the essence we return to, the force that dissolves separation and reveals our deepest truths. 

Love is not something to be found or earned; it is who we are at our core. This final portal reminds us that all paths lead here. Every breath, every moment, every portal we’ve explored, has been guiding us closer to this truth: that love is the infinite source, within and all around us, calling us home.

I will finish with 2 beautiful quotations of Kia Miller

“The love we think is love is ultimately just a fraction of what love really is”
“Perhaps my entry point to deep love is reverence. Being in awe of life and deeply grateful. When I’m in gratitude, there’s no separation. I’m not trying to manipulate the moment. I’m just grateful and open-hearted”